Mother of the bride dress questions
Here are some questions that you should think about and discuss with the bride and groom so that you all have a clear understanding of what’s expected.
There are so many things to consider when dressing for the mother of the bride and mother of the groom....
It is a responsibility that doesn’t seem like it would be stressful but when the time comes you can get so overwhelmed with choices that you don’t even know where to start!
What season is the wedding in?
Have you spoken to the bride about what colour she wants you to wear?
Are you co-ordinating with the mother of the groom?
Is the bridal party going to match with you?
Do the bride and groom have a colour scheme for their wedding?
How formal are you expected to dress?
Are there any rules on what you should wear?
So many things to consider and a million different options! Don’t worry we’ve got you! Here at Bombshell we have put together a gorgeous selection of mother of the bride or groom outfits that will be perfect for the big day!
Check out our collection Mother of the Bride or Groom Outfits.
What should I wear to my daughter's wedding?
Your body shape plays an important role in what you should wear. This doesn’t just go for the wedding but on any occasion where you are wearing a dress. You want clothing that is going to match your body shape. You don’t want a dress clinging onto the wrong areas and going out when it should be sucking you in. I have done a more in-depth blog about how to dress for your body shape if you want to get some inspiration.
As seasons change, so do dresses! Are the happy couple getting married in summer? Or are they hoping for a winter wedding? The colours and styles of dresses will be very different depending on the season, so you need to know before you make a decision If the bride and groom are getting married in the summer or spring then wearing something like this would be a gorgeous option.
Our Invitation Sapphire Blue Collar Sarong Bombshell Dress is an absolutely gorgeous shade of blue with a simplistic design. This is the perfect piece for a summer wedding because it isn’t too “out there”, so it won’t distract away from the bride and groom, but it incorporates summer colours into your dress!
This dress is so elegant and sophisticated, with the fabric designed and made to flatter your curves! You need this dress! If they have decided on an autumn or winter wedding then perhaps this is something you should wear.
The unique Grace Dress
This is our Heron Silk Dupion Bombshell 'Grace' Tie Front Shirt Dress which is a gorgeous dress to wear to any occasion, not just a wedding! The tie front detail makes it unique so you know you are wearing something a little more special, without taking too much of the limelight!
How close are you with your daughter? You need to think if she would want you to dress similar to her bridal party, or if she wants you to have your own colour and style.
Are you going to be there for the planning and bridal parties or is your job to just show up on the day? You might be expected to dress like a guest rather than mother of the bride, this depends on your relationship with your daughter!
What is the most popular colour for mother of the bride dresses?
A versatile colour hit for a mother of the bridge is of course a personal choice, but from our experience, we know that Navy, Gold, Green and Floral are always winners! Here are some of our gorgeous colours (and of course, our fabrics and cuts work with all colours).
Navy mother of the bride dress
Wearing a navy dress for mother of the bride is one of the most popular colours. It is simple and unlikely to distract any attention away from the bride and groom. Navy is a safe colour that can fit most seasons (aside from perhaps spring and summer). Take a look at this gorgeous Bombshell navy dress that is perfect for any MOB! Utter chic.
Navy Confident Bombshell Cap Sleeve Dress has a flattering sarong skirt with concealing drapes. I designed this dress to make you feel utterly fabulous and look amazing too! The fabric is so soft and flexible that you don’t need to worry about breaking out into dance when the reception begins!
Just look at this delicious mix of stunning green silk together with a matching dress coat. The dress is fully lined, below the knee (so flattering), with a concealed wrap bodice - here it is: Bombshell Emerald Green Silk Confident Dress and the coat is our Bombshell Occasion Coat in Emerald Green Silk. We call these style dresses 'The Confident' because every woman who wears one says they feel super confident!
Gold mother of the bride dress
Look at this Gold GRACE Tie Front Shirt Dress that will visually raise your bust and give you an effortless silhouette! The detailing in this dress isn’t too much so it doesn’t look tacky, but it is the perfect amount to give the dress a little bit of character. This dress is the definition of luxury, you’ll wonder how you ever lived without it!
Green Mother of the Bride dress
Those auburn beauties out there would probably default to a gorgeous green but it really is a colour for any hair colour or skin tone. It is said that emerald is one of the colours that truly suits all skin tones. It’s a jewel tone so it doesn’t make your skin colour look washed out. Stunning for autumn and winter, especially in silk.
Floral mother of the bride dress
Beautiful Kensington Garden...
Kensington Garden Pink 3/4 Sleeve 'Confident' Dress as you can see with this dress it is absolutely gorgeous with a stunning pink shade and complimentary flowers placed carefully upon the garment. Xanthe Magenta 'Grace' Dress gives you that splash of magenta and red to enhance the spring or summer vibe. It is a gorgeous option for a wedding and can match the flowers that the bride and groom decide to use. New for the end of February 2022 ! I loved designing this and the pattern is utterly divine. Sticking with the floral theme, welcome our Navy Rose Grace Shirt Dress. Who doesn’t love a 1950s Paris or Hollywood inspired dress?
What colour does the mother of the bride wear?
What the mother of the bride should not wear!
The standard rule to go by is that anyone attending the wedding should not wear colours that are similar to white. This is the same for the mother of the bride. Avoiding white, ivory, and champagne colours is a great option and will be much appreciated by the bride! Unless of course the bride has specifically stated that wearing these colours are fine, maybe she’s decided on an all-white bridal party?
But don’t assume that she will be okay with light colours like these. It’s a no-no. Stay away from anything that could take the attention away from the bride. Just like going for whites or ivory colours will cause a distraction or whisper, stay away from bold colours and patterns that will have eyes on you. Red is daring, and you’ll stand out but is that what the bride wants? If it’s a “red” theme, then great! Just make sure you aren’t standing out more than your daughter or daughter in law! Wearing something super bright and colourful when everyone else is wearing pastel colours for example, means that you are standing out, which in turn might make you feel slightly awkward and uncomfortable.
Don’t wear anything that clashes with the bridal party of the wedding colour scheme, be thoughtful of what the bride and groom wants and always ask them if you are unsure. When in doubt, ask!
Does the mother of the bride wear the same colour as the bridesmaids?
The mother of the bride does not need to match the bridesmaids or anyone else in the bridal party. It is always a good idea to check however, but a lot of brides like to have everyone’s colours similar so that it looks good in photos and when standing next to each other. Look for a dress that complements the bridesmaids and others in the bridal party, but don’t go for the same colour.
You, as the MOB, are super special after all! It is becoming more common for a bride to pick different colours for each of her bridesmaids, so you don’t want to disrupt that style she is going for. Any appropriate look will do as long as it doesn’t draw attention away from the happy colour. The bride might have a colour in mind for you so just ask her, she will be grateful that you thought to ask!
Do the mother of the bride and mother of the groom wear the same colour?
It’s not necessary for the mother of the bride and the mother of the groom to wear the same colour. It might be a nice nod to the joining of the family members for both the mother of the bride and the mother of the groom to wear the same colour, but it depends on what both sides want. Coordinating the outfits slightly will make it easier for photographs but ask both the bride and groom on their opinion.
Some brides decide that they don’t want there to be any style mishaps like someone wearing the same dress as another (ouch!), so just check with her and you can make your decision from there. Both the mother of the bride and mother of the groom should feel comfortable in what colour they each choose to wear, and do remember to discuss styles and how formal the outfit is going to be as well as the colour.
Bombshell top tips to take away from this post
Always ask the bride and groom what they would prefer. They might have a colour scheme in mind that doesn’t go with what dress colour you are thinking. Or the bride might have a specific colour that she wants you to wear. It is their big day after all and you should make it go as smoothly as possible. Remember to ask them about the style of the dress and how formal the outfit should be too! Just a note to those who, like me, have a big bust, we’ve written a blog here (How to Dress for a Big Bust) which is a must informative read. Thanks for reading and congratulations on your daughter's engagement!